///ok.go///the blog of jordan and ellen

So when you are the person that is about to get married… you are stuck a little between a rock and hard place. You are extremely vulnerable in that you pretty much have to listen to all of the advice that is given to you. As much as you want to fake membership on the married guy team (just to avoid some of the less than stimulating wisdom) you simply cannot because as much as words could convince otherwise, as well as you may be able to fake it, you know in your own mind that this is a step that you are about to take for the first time and you really don’t know what is down below.

I received a lot of advice. A lot. To be perfectly honest I asked for a lot of it. I decided that since I was going to be getting a pretty good bit in an involuntary manner, that I might as well buy into it full force. So of course I decided to make up a game. This game is called “80% of what people tell you about being married all comes back to 3 or 4 things”. Basically I discovered that many of the men that I encountered told me the same thing. It all came back to things like honesty, communication and a resounding “your wife is always right”. Then of course I did get the usual never go to bed angry, try to help out around the house, just listen to her, just be quiet. One guy even told me the most important thing that she needed to know was how to make biscuits. Apparently he knows more about the husbands needs than the wife.

The thing is most of those people are right. Even in the few weeks that I have been a member of the team, we have proven true the importance of communication, honesty, respect… Men who had built 55 year marriages have to practice the same daily elements that I do. The truth is, as much as people seem to change, we really just walk around in circles. Everyone might be just like their grandfather, and for me that would be a compliment on both sides. So here I go, joining to the continuation of happy marriages that flow all throughout my family. We should be good just as long as Ellen learns how to make a biscuit.